OK, we need a new post here.
How do you deal with persistence in a teen?
This persistence is a good thing when she wants to try to figure out some challenging math problem, or how to program a computer.
This persistence is a bad thing when she thinks she wants dance lessons, and her parents have said 'No' despite the fact that she's saved up enough money to take the classes, and everyone she talks to says they can't understand why her parent won't let her take dance lessons.
You can probably determine, as a parent, that there are other reasons besides money for saying 'No."
Like: I have to drive her back and forth. Last year, many of the costumes at the recital were not modest. The music was, in some cases, very bad, and usually too loud. The moves the girls were taught left my husband and I wondering what the dance academy thought it was training these girls for, to be girly show dancers?
And despite repeated explanations of why this is not a good thing for her, this 13 year old, wanting independence, wanting to make her own decisions, is really, really struggling with the decision we've made not to let her take dance again this year. I can't tell you how many times she's cried over this. How do I deal with this kind of persistence?