At supper the other night, we were discussing driving. My 13 year old is itching to drive, talks about when she can drive, etc. We found out a friend of ours is about to turn 18 and has not learned how to drive yet, and the reason is that he is a little scared about growing up, and driving adds responsibilities. My husband said, "Well, he doesn't sound like our kids, they seem to want to grow up faster, not slower!"
But my 10 year old suprised us by saying, "Oh, I don't want to grow up either."
"Really?" I asked, "why not?"
"Because you have to pay taxes," she started, "and buy all your own stuff, and buy a house, and pay for college."
I guess we adults have complained about taxes a little too verbally in this house, and the seeming free flow of money for "stuff"--well, she's mature enough to know that that comes to an end, too. And the "paying for college" is because whenever they have the least little bit of extra, we're always saying, "better save that for college!"
I'm not worried though. I know that most kids have this "fight for independence" gene that kicks in around 13-14, the gene that says, "I'll get my own job, move out, and make my own rules" right after you've told them they can't attend some function they've been invited to but that you find not worthy of them. The ten year old isn't there yet, the eighteen year old is daunted by the fact that he's the oldest of seven and has been told for a few years now how helpful it would be for him to help with car pooling. I'm sure that somewhere in that mind, he's driving a corvette instead of a 15 passenger van.